Are you valuing your value?
Let that sink in. Do you really see your value and are you allowing others to see it?
To figure this out, reflect on how you respond to people and the boundaries you set. In friendships or relationships
Are people respectful of your time and how do you respond?
Do you drop plans for people or do you expect to be contacted in a reasonable amount of time?
If people flake out on you, do you bother to get back with them?
Once in a while is fine and understandable, but if this is a patern for you, you may have some work to do.
Valuing Your Time
If you value your own time, others will as well. Of course, being flexible is a wonderful trait to have. There may be times when people contact you last minute to get together or people may make you wait. If this is a constant for you, you may want to look at your schedule and how valuable your time is. This is one way to create boundaries and know that your time is valuable. You don’t have to say yes to everything especially if it interferes with your schedule.
Ask yourself these questions to know if the request is that important.
- Do I really want to do this or do I feel obligated?
- Is this person/activity a priority?
- Will it fit in with my current schedule?
- Will doing this make me feel good or will I feel tired or drained?
Surrounding Yourself with Positivity
Do those closest to you respect where you are in life?
This is important. Are your family and friends interested, excited or positive about what you do? Of course, not everyone is going to be interested in everything, but if your friends can’t show some positivity or encouragement, maybe it’s time to rethink the relationship. If you feel dragged down, devalued or drained after a meeting with this person, perhaps they don’t see your value.
This goes for relationships as well. Does your partner value your characteristics? If you are driven, successful, inteligent etc, is your partner turned off by that. If he or she is the right person for you, they wouldn’t be. I’m speaking from experience here, but if your partner doesn’t value your goals, who you are and the path that you are on in life, it’s definitely time to move on.
Make Yourself a Priority
Finally, do you value you?
I mean do you really? Do you give your goals and dreams the time and attention they deserve? Do you make time for these things in your schedule or do you put them on the back burner because you are too busy taking care of kids, being a wife/girlfriend, cooking and cleaning or doing a meaningless job that you are constantly on the verge of quitting? If you are, it’s time to look at your values.
Grab a notebook and start brainstorming with these four questions.
- What are your top five goals?
- What are your values?
- How do your goals reflect those values?
- What is one step you can take today to move you towards accomplishing at least one goal?
The step can be very small. For example, if your goal is to start a blog, one step would be to brainstorm name ideas. Step number two could be to purchase a domain. If you don’t know what a domain is, then your step number two would be to research on domains. If one of your goals is to read four books per month, then your first step could be to choose a book. Next step, read five pages. You get the idea. It doesn’t matter which goal you choose to work on, but make it something valuable to you. Once you start seeing the value in yourself, others will follow suit.
Are you an overwhelmed mom who doesn’t know where to start? Have you lost yourself and don’t even know what your goals or values are anymore? If so, I’d love to help you. Schedule a discovery call with me and we can discuss strategies that will help you feel like that valuable mama I know you are!
Excellent article full of great questions to ponder.
At age 50, I still struggle with making myself a priority. I definitely continue to work on that daily ….
Very well written, its true sometime we forget to give ourselves priority, we try to adjust to every situation. This is not right for every situation, otherwise it will be like taken for granted. One more point of yours I believe is positive company, it is very necessary. Thanks for sharing!!
Making myself a priority is something I’m working on a lot lately!