How kind are you to yourself? If your friend was going through a rough time and you were comforting her, would you say the same things to yourself if you were in a similar situation? I’m guessing you’d be a whole lot harder on yourself. In most cases, we are our own worst critics.
I was on a conference call with two other coaches. One of them asked how we were going to be kind to ourselves this week. She wanted us to come up with a mantra or affirmation that we could tell ourselves to show some self compassion. She reminds us that we are human. We make mistakes, but we do the best we can. We need to look at ourselves with the same kindness and compassion that we give to others. When it was my turn to speak, I honestly couldn’t think of anything. I stumbled over my words and totally drew a blank. However, if you asked what was one kind thing I could say to a friend, a family member or even a stranger, I could come up with something in a second. Eventually, I said, “I’ll show myself some patience and forgiveness when I make a mistake.”
I felt very put on the spot, but I realized that I’m generally not kind to myself. I have no idea how many times a day I put myself down in my head. If I kept track, it would probably be shocking. I would never do that to someone else, so why would I do that to myself? I know I’m not the only one who struggles with this, so I was inspired to create this list of 50 self kindness and compassion quotes and affirmations to remind you to be. Kinder to yourself.
You can copy and paste these to print or put up on your wall. You can add them to a screen saver or image on your phone. You can create a vision board, write them in a notebook or create your own affirmations. Use these quotes to inspire self kindness in a way that resonates with you.
- I am worthy of love.
- I am worthy of infinite and unending compassion.
- I deserve love, compassion, and empathy.
- I am powerful, confident, and capable of reaching all my dreams.
- I have a warm and caring heart.
- I am exactly who I need to be in this moment.
- All of my decisions are inspired from inner wisdom and compassion.
- I am a beautiful person.
- I love and treasure my body.
- I honor and respect my limitations.
- Happiness flows freely from me.
- Love rises from my heart in the face of difficulty.
- I have infinite capacity for love and affection.
- I am successful.
- I believe in the person I dream of becoming.
- I carry strength and resilience with me.
- I have the ability to overcome any challenge life gives me.
- Changing is never simple but it’s easier if I stop being hard on myself.
- My mistakes just show that I’m growing and learning.
- It’s okay to make mistakes and forgive myself.
- I am free to let go of others’ judgments.
- My life is a celebration of my accomplishments.
- My every step is one of courage.
- Abundance and love flow from me.
- I honor my own life path.
“Self-compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to others.” Christopher Germer
“We are each gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light.” Mary Dunbar
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” Sharon Salzberg
“I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.” Brené Brown
“Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.” Malcolm S. Forbes
“There is a magnificent, beautiful, wonderful painting in front of you! It is intricate, detailed, a painstaking labor of devotion and love! The colors are like no other, they swim and leap, they trickle and embellish! And yet you choose to fixate your eyes on the small fly which has landed on it! Why do you do such a thing?” C. JoyBell C.
“Did your mom ever tell you, ‘If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything’? She was right–and talking nicely also applies when you’re talking to yourself, even inside your head.” Victoria Moran
“You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.” Diane Von Furstenberg
“I love myself for I am a beloved child of the universe and the universe lovingly takes care of me now.” Louise Hay
“Often, it’s not about becoming a new person, but becoming the person you were meant to be, and already are, but don’t know how to be.” Heath L. Buckmaster, Box of Hair: A Fairy Tale
“You can succeed if nobody else believes it, but you will never succeed if you don’t believe in yourself.” William J. H. Boetcker
“I was once afraid of people saying ‘Who does she think she is?’ Now I have the courage to stand and say ‘This is who I am.’” Oprah Winfrey
“A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life.” Christopher K. Germer
“Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony.” – Mahatma Gandhi
“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”―Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection
“An important aspect of self-compassion is to be able to empathically hold both parts of ourselves–the self that regrets a past action and the self that took the action in the first place.”—Marshall Rosenberg, Non-Violent Communication
“People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.”—Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.”—Steve Furtick
“When you say ‘Yes’ to others make sure you are not saying ‘No’ to yourself.” —Paulo Cohelo
“Flowers don’t open and close according to whose walking by. They open and show their beauty regardless.” Rebecca Campbell – Light Is The New Black
“Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without.” Confucius
“When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.” – Jean Shinoda Bolen
Learning to love yourself is like learning to walk—essential, life-changing, and the only way to stand tall.” – Vironika Tugaleva
“There are days I drop words of comfort on myself like falling leaves and remember that it is enough to be taken care of by myself.” – Brian Andreas
Do you have a favorite affirmation or quote that you use to be kind to your self? Tell me in the comments.